Tuesday, 28 October 2014

FREE Pre-Release Copy of Project Life

Success, Happiness, Prosperity: Get the key to have it all.

We all want financial freedom, better relationships and more success in our careers, but we somehow end up settling for less-than-ideal results. We end up as passengers in our own lives instead of being in charge of our destinies.

This book is a simple guide with tangible examples and step-by-step plans to take complete control of all the important aspects of life – an all-in-one manual for Life. Financial prosperity, personal fulfillment and professional success come standard. With methods, techniques and skills developed over a 10-year period, the author has deliberately written the book to be simple to understand and easy to implement to maximum effect.

Project Life for Men, as the title states, focuses on the topics of relationships, self-improvement and career & financial success from his perspective. Similarly, Project Life for Women applies its focus to grow in these topics from the female perspective.

To get your very own pre-release copy, is to request your copy from artinjos at gmail dot com, with the following information:
·        Name, Social Media Contact Details (blogs, Twitter, Facebook, etc.)
·        Gender (which one of the Project Life ebooks you prefer)

Yes, there is a catch - please take the time to email me your comments and critique to the same address. Any inputs, comments or opinions will be highly appreciated!

Thanks in advance,
Jos Artin
Twitter: @jos_artin. Blogs: www.josartin.blogspot.com, and www.josartin.wordpress.com

Thursday, 23 October 2014

Choices Determine Destinies!

Think about the next line for a minute: Everything you can see, touch, smell or feel is a result of your own choices. Every aspect of your life from your home, clothes, food, type of car, what work you do and how you feel about your job, relationships or financial situation – all are the results of choices you (and you alone) made over time. If you look at your car and think: “that car was not my choice, my wife chose it”, then you chose to allow her the selection of the car. Similarly, if you look at the job you are doing, and it’s your parents who wanted you to become a lawyer/plumber/whatever: you are still the one who chose to become it. There really is nothing in your life over which you had no control or no choice if you think about it objectively.

We are constantly putting out fires - reacting to daily stresses and frustrations as they present themselves. We actually make most of our important choices while caught up in the emotional fall-out of the symptoms, without the  without the benefit of assessing our options objectively. Without objectivity, we cannot identify the real cause of the problem - so we never address the issue to resolution. While in this mode, we will forever chase our tails. This is like eating soup with a fork - lots of effort for virtually zero gain!

Learn how to objectify and assess the situation, consider options, plan & execute your resolution in my upcoming book called Project Life. This book is simple to understand, but teaches powerful tools and skills to help us make better choices. Because our choices determine our destinies! 

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Depression is Anger without Passion

Depression is simply anger without passion.  While medical treatments for depression may dull the feelings, it cannot give you the passion you need to express and deal with your anger or frustrations. While many people may differ from me here, it is my sincere belief that medication has never cured depression: giving a person temporary relief from the symptoms does not solve the cause of the problem - ever. Only action can.

Monday, 20 October 2014

Three Pillars of Life-long Relationships

The Three Pillars of Life-long Relationships

For any relationship to last a life-time, it has to be built on the “Three Pillars of any Successful Relationship”. Here they are, in order of importance:
  1. Respect
  2. Trust
  3. Love
I know couples who have relationships built on these blocks, and I see how they automatically avoid the common pitfalls so many other couples face: Because respect is paramount, they do not treat each other in a derogatory way or belittle each other. Because there is trust, they are not suspicious and they know the other person feels the same. Because they love each other more than anything else in life, they will always want to put the partner’s needs and feeling before their own. Have a look at the couples you know who are not sailing in smooth waters, and think of their relationships. Look at the actions and arguments, and you will notice the absence of respect, trust or love – sometimes it’s not just one of the three Pillars which are missing! This is very evident in Peter & Suzi’s example too. Give this some thought and look at your own relationship: Is it built on a foundation of respect? Do you unwaveringly trust your partner? Do you sincerely and without any doubt love your partner above all else? These Pillars are assigned the specific order of importance for a reason, as each Pillar flows into and feeds the next one:
  • 1.      Respect: If you respect your partner, you also respect yourself – you cannot give respect if you don’t have it. You also understand that you are respected by your partner, and are confident that your partner will act with careful consideration, the same way you would in any given situation. Respect automatically guarantees a code of conduct which you honour without even thinking about it: If you respect your partner, you will not insult or humiliate him/her. You will accept that your partner will not insult or humiliate you in return, and as a result, you will never need to be defensive – this ensures a calmer mental state by default. You automatically give each other the benefit of any doubt without having to wonder about it. You always put yourself in your partner’s shoes before saying anything potentially hurtful, and you always make sure that your partner’s back is covered – just like you would expect for yourself. This respect-founded code of conduct leads directly to the next Pillar:
  • 2.      Trust: If you respect yourself and your partner, you will never cheat on him/her, because that is what you expect in return. You will always put yourself in your partner’s shoes when the temptation arises, and always think: “what would I want him/her to do in this situation?” Unwavering and unconditional trust is the result, which leads to
  • 3.      Love: This is an emotion based on the total security, bliss and closeness which are direct results of respect and trust. I’m not referring to the butterflies of being in love here, but love. The only way I can describe love, is that it’s a state of mind about a person for which I will sacrifice anything without condition or question.

Once you learn how to build relationships on the Three Pillars, you will understand why there are relationships out there which last a life-time, and you too will increase your potential to have one!

In my upcoming book titled Project Life, readers will discover the steps to change or build deeply fulfilling relationships. Other chapters are dedicated to self-improvement, financial well-being and many other vital topics – but there is one major difference to my approach: I provide simple, clear plans with a guided step-by-step method and tangible examples to provide each reader with all the tools they will need to take full control of their lives and re-write their destinies.